We’ve all had them in our lives, right? The “buddy” who sticks around only because the sex is so damn good. Every time we get out of a relationship, they’re the first person we call. It’s almost like a reset button—helping us forget what we just left behind and reminding us that we can still feel sexy, wanted, and alive. There’s just something magical about good sex that makes everything else fade into the background.
But then… what happens when that magic disappears? You get together, and this time… the spark is gone. The sex isn’t what it used to be. Maybe it’s awkward, or maybe one of you just doesn’t feel it anymore. It always seems like one person realizes it first—the dissatisfaction creeping in, while the other is still hanging onto those old memories.
How do you break the news? You don’t want to crush their ego or make them feel bad about their skills in bed, but let’s be real—you’re no longer interested. So, how do you let them down gently? Or do you?
And here’s the thing: Do you brush off that one bad time as just a fluke? Maybe it was a bad day, right? Maybe things will be better next time. But deep down, you know the truth—things have changed, and you’re not sure if you even want to go back there again. If the only reason you were meeting up in the first place was for the amazing sex, but now… that’s gone… is there even a point?
If you’ve moved on to a new relationship, it’s a little easier. You have a built-in excuse. But if you just don’t want to see them anymore, what do you do? For a while, you can play the “I’m busy” card—pretend you have plans, make up excuses, but how long can that last? Eventually, you have to be honest with them, even though it’s hard. You have to say the words, “I’m not interested anymore.” And it stings.
I wish they made a Hallmark card for that. “Sorry, the good sex is over. Thanks, but no thanks.” Wouldn’t it be nice if it was that easy?