Let’s get straight to it, fellas—getting laid isn’t that complicated if you’ve got your life together. While you may not be able to hook up with the “10” you saw at the bar last night, if you make the right connections, you should still be able to get some action.
As hard as it might be to believe, not every guy is getting “it.” That’s concerning. If you’re a hardworking, stable man and your sex life is lacking, there could be a few things you need to consider. If you haven’t had any action this year (or longer), here are some things to reflect on and work on.
1. Your Personality
Let’s be real—if you’re an asshole, it’s not going to work. Now, if you’re an asshole with money, humor, or good looks, maybe you’ll get lucky. But if you’re just a straight-up jerk, you won’t get far. Women don’t like creepy, rude guys—they’ll avoid you. The key is to be approachable, not scary. Focus on being a sane guy. Being a decent person goes a long way, especially when it comes to connecting with women.
2. Your Mouth
This one’s closely tied to your personality. You can’t just say anything to women. You might think that making edgy or risqué comments will get you attention, but it’s a fine line between flirting and being inappropriate. If you’re the guy who can’t stop making rude or offensive remarks, you’ll never get lucky. Women are looking for someone who can make them laugh and feel comfortable, not someone who makes them cringe. So, maybe tone it down on the inappropriate comments, fellas.
3. Your Grooming
Surprisingly, many men neglect their appearance. We’re living in an era where men’s grooming is more important than ever. From gym memberships to spas, men are working harder on their looks—and you should be, too. Women expect well-groomed men. If you don’t take care of yourself, it could be a huge reason why you’re not getting any action.
Here’s the breakdown of grooming:
- Shaving: Not just your face—think nose hair, chest hair (unless you’re into the ’70s look), and maybe your head if your hair is thinning.
- Oral Care: Brush your teeth and use mouthwash.
- Exercise: Keep your body in shape.
- Smell: Use the right amount of cologne, aftershave, and deodorant.
- Cleanliness: Basic hygiene—don’t skip it.
If you still think grooming isn’t important, ask any woman. They’ll tell you. A well-groomed guy is usually the one who gets attention, while the guy who skips the shower…well, he usually goes home alone.
4. Your Lack of Self-Confidence
Confidence is key when it comes to attracting women. A lack of it can be the difference between a phone number and a kiss… or more. It’s a major factor.
I can’t give you the secret formula to confidence—it’s something you have to find within yourself. But once you find something that makes you stand out, whether it’s your intellect, sense of humor, or anything else, own it. Rock that confidence and it will change your interactions. Confidence is something you work on, and once you’ve got it, use it to your advantage.
5. Your Lack of Sexual Skill
No guy wants a “Bad Dick Report” (BDR) following them around. A BDR is worse than bad credit—it stays with you. If you want to avoid this, you need to improve your sexual skills.
The best way to avoid a BDR is to genuinely work on being better in bed. Women appreciate when a man is focused on pleasing them. The effort and attention to detail you put into making her feel good will pay off. Don’t just focus on yourself—be mindful of her needs, too. Women talk. If you give it your best, you’ll get positive feedback.
These are some solid tips I’ve learned through years of experience. They can help you get things right in the bedroom. And remember—great sex is what you should aim for, not just any sex. Don’t end up with a BDR; instead, aim for a great reputation!