I. Fucking. Quit.
Taking a break. No more dating for now.
A detox can take many forms. The core idea is to rid yourself of something that’s been dragging you down or negatively affecting your life. People detox from all kinds of things – alcohol, bad food, toxic habits. For me? It’s my frustrating dating life. Yep, I’m sparing the women of Los Angeles from me for a little while.
Right now, my dating life kind of sucks. Why? Maybe it’s because, deep down, I know I’m not perfect. In fact, I’ve probably been more of the problem than anyone else. Over the last few weeks, I’ve seen posts calling me everything from a douche to a sociopath after just a couple of dates. Now, sure, people talking smack means they’re still talking, right? But that sociopath comment? It stung a little. I didn’t realize I had such an effect on people after only two dates. Guess I’m doing something right, or not.
Let me take a second to be brutally honest with myself – and you:
- The girl who called me a sociopath – I shouldn’t have gone on that second date. I knew after the first that you weren’t my type. My bad for wasting both our time.
- The girl who teased me until I was blue in the face – I was just looking to get laid. Well played for not playing into it.
- The nurse I went out with – there was zero chemistry. I should’ve seen that coming from the texts alone, but I went for it anyway.
- The writer/blogger I went out with – I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have wasted your time either.
- The girl I called a “broad” – Ugh, fail on my part. I totally messed that up.
- To the city planner – We had good conversations about food and beer, but it wasn’t anything more. Probably shouldn’t have done a second date.
- To the TV producer – same story as above.
- And the other five or so women – honestly, I barely remember what we did. Not the best sign.
This list isn’t even comprehensive; it’s just a sample of how the last three months of dating have gone for me. It’s time for this Urban Dater to step back. Where’s my damn Kit Kat?
Clearly, I need to sort things out before I dive back into the dating pool. It’s time for some self-reflection, because honestly, it’s me, not you… well, sometimes it really is you.
So, I’m detoxing from dating. Time to take a break, get my life together, and focus on the things that actually matter. This chubby isn’t going to take care of itself.
~ Aman Verma | Founder of LinkedMint